Survey Results

Dear all,

Here’s a summary of the survey on having another daylong in the Modesto area:

Out of 17 responses:

17 were for a daylong retreat – looks like I’ll go forward with arranging one!

10 preferred a full day, 7 preferred a morning half day, and 2 an afternoon half day – so we’ll plan for a full day and those of you who can only attend part of the day would be welcome to leave/arrive as needed.

Most of the respondents could make a weekend day, the preference was Saturday over Sunday

9 out of 17 could make a daylong retreat in August, only 4 could make it in June or July, so I will investigate dates in August.

Many of you were willing to help out – my heartfelt gratitude for your availability to help with the daylong.

When I have a date secured, I’ll pass on more information.

Many thanks to all of you who responded and participated!

Now, here is another short poll – to ask your thoughts on the creation of a small study group – I’d like your thoughts on this:

Dharma Study Group Survey

Parami of Equanimity

Here are some quotes and other readings on equanimity:

From the Dhammapada (Gil Fronsdal translation):

The restless, agitated mind,
Hard to protect, hard to control,
The sage makes straight,
As a fletcher the shaft of an arrow….

For those who are unsteady of mind,
Who do not know true Dharma,
And whose serenity wavers,
Wisdom does not mature.

For one who is awake,
Whose mind isn’t overflowing,
Whose heart isn’t afflicted
And who has abandoned both merit and demerit,
Fear does not exist.

From: A Treatise on the Paramis trans. by Bhikkhu Bodhi:

The perfection of equanimity is the attitude of impartiality toward desirable and undesirable beings and formations, dispelling attraction and repulsion, accompanied by compassion and skillful means.

Equanimity has the characteristic of promoting the aspect of neutrality; its function is to see things impartially; its manifestation is the subsiding of attraction and repulsion: reflection upon the fact that all beings inherit the results of their own kamma is its proximate cause.

“When there is no equanimity, the offensive actions performed by beings cause oscillation in the mind. And when the mind oscillates, it is impossible to practice the requisites of enlightenment.”

From Verses on the Faith Mind, Seng-ts’an, Third Zen Ancestor:

The Great Way is not difficult
for those who hold no preferences.
When neither love nor hate arises,
all is clear and undisguised.
Separate by the smallest amount, however,
and you are as far from it as heaven is from earth.

If you wish to know the truth,
then hold to no opinions for or against anything.
To set up what you like against what you dislike
is the disease of the mind.

When the fundamental nature of things is not recognized
the mind’s essential peace is disturbed to no avail.
The Way is perfect as vast space is perfect,
where nothing is lacking and nothing is in excess.

Indeed, it is due to our grasping and rejecting
that we do not know the true nature of things.
Live neither in the entanglements of outer things,
nor in ideas or feelings of emptiness.
 Be serene and at one with things
and erroneous views will disappear by themselves.
….
When the mind exists undisturbed in the Way,
there is no objection to anything in the world;
and when there is no objection to anything,
things cease to be— in the old way.
When no discriminating attachment arises,
the old mind ceases to exist.
Let go of things as separate existences
and mind too vanishes.
Likewise when the thinking subject vanishes
so too do the objects created by mind.

The arising of other gives rise to self;
giving rise to self generates others.
Know these seeming two as facets
of the One Fundamental Reality.
In this Emptiness, these two are really one—
and each contains all phenomena.
If not comparing, nor attached to “refined” and “vulgar”—
you will not fall into judgment and opinion.
….
When in harmony with the nature of things, your own fundamental nature,
and you will walk freely and undisturbed.
However, when mind is in bondage, the truth is hidden,
and everything is murky and unclear,
and the burdensome practice of judging
brings annoyance and weariness.
What benefit can be derived
from attachment to distinctions and separations?

From the Summer 1010 Buddhadharma magazine, Sharon Salzberg offers these phrases for equanimity practice:

May I offer my care and presence without conditions, knowing they may be met by gratitude, anger or indifference.

May I find the inner resources to truly be able to give.

May I remain in peace, and let go of expectations.

May I offer love, knowing I can’t control the course of life, suffering, or death.

I care about your pain, yet cannot control it.

I wish you happiness and peace, but cannot make your choices for you.

May I see my limits compassionately, just as I view the limitations of others.

Here are some other equanimity phrases:

“May I have peace amid the changes in my life, and may I have peace amid the changes in others lives.” *

“May I be undisturbed by the changing circumstances of my life,”

“May I be aware and at peace with the changes that happen in every life and to everyone,” or

“May I offer my efforts and help, knowing it may be of great, some, or even no benefit.”

Another beautiful example of a support to cultivate equanimity in our lives is the famous Serenity Prayer, which asks for the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Other equanimity quotes and phrases can be found here:

Equanimity Quotes from IMC

“It is our duty to compose
our character,
not to compose books,
and to win, not battles
and provinces,
but order and tranquility
for our conduct of life”
— Montaigne

Here are some links to talks on equanimity:

Paramis: Equanimity – Andrea Fella

Equanimity – Gil Fronsdal

Parami Series #10 Equanimity: The Unshakable Heart – Myoshin Kelley

Finding Joy in Difficult Times

Here is a link to the reading of the Maha-Rahulovada Sutta: The Greater Exhortation to Rahula (see the whole sutta – this is just a short excerpt to refresh your memory):

“Rahula, develop the meditation in tune with earth. For when you are developing the meditation in tune with earth, agreeable & disagreeable sensory impressions that have arisen will not stay in charge of your mind. Just as when people throw what is clean or unclean on the earth — feces, urine, saliva, pus, or blood — the earth is not horrified, humiliated, or disgusted by it; in the same way, when you are developing the meditation in tune with earth, agreeable & disagreeable sensory impressions that have arisen will not stay in charge of your mind.”

Here is a link to the poem by Rumi called “The Guest House“.

The lovingkindness chant we ended the Tuesday evening sitting with goes like this (with thanks to Heather Martin for teaching this):

May I be filled with lovingkindness

May I be well

May I be peaceful and at ease

May I be happy

May you be filled with lovingkindness

May you be well

May you be peaceful and at ease

May you be happy

May we be filled with lovingkindness

May we be well

May we be peaceful and at ease

May we be happy


The Parami of Sacca: Truthfulness

The topic this week was the parami of truthfulness (sacca in Pali).

Here are the Truthfulness Quotes that were handed out.

This is the poem that was read:

Awakening Now by Danna Faulds

Why wait for your awakening?
The moment your eyes are open, seize the day.
Would you hold back when the Beloved beckons?
Would you deliver your litany of sins like a child’s collection of sea shells, prized and labeled?
“No, I can’t step across the threshold,” you say, eyes downcast.
“I’m not worthy” I’m afraid, and my motives aren’t pure.
I’m not perfect, and surely I haven’t practiced nearly enough.
My meditation isn’t deep, and my prayers are sometimes insincere.
I still chew my fingernails, and the refrigerator isn’t clean.
“Do you value your reasons for staying small more than the light shining through the open door?
Forgive yourself.
Now is the only time you have to be whole.
Now is the sole moment that exists to live in the light of your true Self.
Perfection is not a prerequisite for anything but pain.
Please, oh please, don’t continue to believe in your disbelief.
This is the day of your awakening.

From: Go In and In: Poems From the Heart of Yoga

Some talks to listen to on the topic of Truthfulness:

Paramis Series #7 Truthfulness – Myoshin Kelley

Truthfulness – Gil Fronsdal

Some readings: